03 Nov 7 Habits that Tell Insecurities
It could be someone from the workplace, someone you know, in your very home — or you. People smell insecurity within a mile — and they’re the kind of people that lights up the whole room when they leave. Here are seven traits in detecting the insecure bunch.
You’ve probably had your share of these experiences. Here are some of the common things insecure people do:
Always the ‘better’ one
The conversation goes how they did it, how they accomplished a project, how immensely important they were during the process, how important their role was to the success of that project. Don’t confuse this as ‘confidence’. Confidence does not belittle others in front of many. People who are secure with what they are and in their role will never have to belittle others just to get a sense of ‘self-worth’.
Usually takes offense
Insecure people tend to take offense easily — even if the comment is not directed to them. They’re too busy thinking about themselves that they’re also oftentimes cannot be corrected. You’ll feel like you’re walking on eggshells around them and feel the need for conversations to always be ‘filtered’.
See all bad in the whole lot of good
You’ll probably categorize this as ‘negativism’. Gossiping is an insecure person’s past-time. They’ll find a way to tell random (and awful) stuffs about the other person’s lives so that you won’t have to focus on their set of life’s dramas.
They’re not team players
Team players encourages others to work their best and once the game is done, they often pat each other on the back and say, ‘Good job’. Not with the insecure bunch. If they feel threatened whenever someone in the team achieves higher than what they achieved, it makes them feel ‘less important’ and they don’t want to stand next to you without having achieved the same (or higher) success.
They love it when others feel ‘pain’
No, they’re not sadists. Insecure people are too obsessed with their success and accomplishments and everything that ‘threatens’ will make them feel less. They love to celebrate the mistakes and failures of others.
They have the first and last word
Insecure people tend to always let others feel that their word ‘matter’. They don’t need the validation of others to feel ‘validated’. If they’re being corrected, they’ll disagree because they will feel less important.
Most insecure people talk about themselves all the time. This is their way of validating their worth. They often won’t listen to others or pay attention to others’ stories and would only inject their own. If an opinion or someone threatens this, they often bully or subdue others’ opinions with theirs. They are either competitive in nature or suck up to someone who is in authority just to feel validated.
There is nothing fancy or wonderful about insecurity. It puts the fire off your potential, seizes growth and will never experience the joy of being able to share the success of others. If you feel that you have someone at work (or you’re experiencing some of these habits), this may be a wake-up call for change.